I've been hearing a lot of weddings lately. And gosh...even my Industrial Management Studies lecturer used a marriage contract as an example of official contracts. Anyway, this has been a pet subject for me to blog about. Anyone who knows me well enough knows what I think about marriage.
The past few months I saw friends of friends tying the knot ( there must be a history behind the use of that phrase...does it imply a hangman's noose knot? ), anyway, these friends would only be around 20 to 22 years and I really really really wonder what madness drove them to end their singledom so early in life. And it's not because of pre-marital 'bundles of joy'. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy to hear that they're happy, but there's that skeptic part of me that wonders what's down the road 10, 20 years from now. When their other friends are just only getting married and they're home worrying about schooling their child?
One of the things that sparked this post would be th above-said marriage contract. It was cold, calculated, full of legal jargon and phrases like Mr XXX is sound of mind when this contract was signed...etc etc. Sound of mind...haha....what a phrase to use. There are so many cultural, society and legistral binds and bonds involved in 'holy matrimonial'.You;re not officially married till you walk down the aisle, go for tea ceremonies, get trashed at the reception dinner, face an army of relatives that may or may not mean anything to you, and sit for dinners here and there and everywhere. I mean, go figure the logic behind that.... I once told someone that if I decided to get married, I would just elope. Isn't that a thousand times more romantic and more private? But then of course there would be the hell to face when you get back......
I think I've become really jaded these past years. Heck, I've yet to be 20, and here I am looking at the future with all the enthusiam of going to the dentist for a painful extraction. Isn't this the phase where I get to be oozing silly optimism and making stupid mistakes that I can later tell my grandkids about over evenings filled with laughter and over-sweet teas. And then, maybe this is the biggest mistake I'm going to be making............
The last wedding I heard about I found myself wishing the couple the best for the future. I hope that in another decade to come the bride stays radiant, the groom stays smitten and I really really hope that for once at least, fairytales and dreams do come true and happily ever after isn't just a phrase limited in storybooks for little girls.
Friday, April 04, 2008
Wednesday, March 05, 2008
Past n Present
It’s been eons since the last time I logged in and actually blogged something. The semester holidays have breezed past, just as always, and I find myself being once again swept away by the hectic currents of assignments and projects. Did I mention I have a midterm project coming up? Beastly thing.
Before the holidays started, I made it a point to at least blog, but I know I didn’t. It wasn’t so much of lack of inspiration because there were so so many things to blog about the last few weeks. But then again, those thoughts would have been too appalling to pen down and too angsty to be reader-friendly. The main reason I’m blogging right now would be because it’s a darn good excuse for putting off doing my homework, which has already started piling up although this is just the 3rd day of school.
So, here’s a quick run-through of the past month and bits of events and thoughts that flitted through my mind:
1 Feb – Dad brought home our cheeky ‘angel’ that came rapped in a four-legged furry black package, complete with waggy tail and eager licks.
7 Feb – Chinese New Year came and past, thank God for that. I know some people love the whole idea of noisy music, the literal ‘painting the town red’ theme, heart-clogging consumption of peanuts and fried goodies, the clink-clank of mahjong tiles interspersed with the constant shouts and bellows of triumph and no orchestra’s complete without the background accompaniment of women exchanging the latest juicy bit of gossip, but to me Chinese New Year is pretty much like a visit to the dentist. It’s something inevitable that’s best done and be over with quick. I know it’s all part of being able to embrace the whole Chinese culture thing but relatives who see me once in a blue moon and try to pretend they know anything at all about me irks me.
9 Feb – Had a pretty enjoyable night at The boy’s place. Highlights of the night would be watching the cutest lion dance performance and being around a houseful of active happy noisy kids ( some part during that night I set out gridlines for my future kids, that is if I ever have any… I’m gonna teach them the best game of all…playing pretend that they’re mimes for at least 4 days a week……)
14 Feb – A day that needs no introduction. It was during this day that I realized that most of us got the whole idea all screwed up being led like lambs to the slaughter by commercialization and what-nots. Valentine’s a day to celebrate love between one another, fellow humans, friends, family, people who mean something to us but somewhere along the way, especially amongst certain communities it’s become an unwritten law that it’s to be confined within couples. And as for paying quintuple times the price for dinner and flowers, honey, how much more sillier can people get?
27 Feb – The first time I never thought of sanitizers as I held a shaking, puking puppy in the car. Also the first time I got vomit stuck in my hair and not minding as long as she lived. Terror never slunk its cruel vise around my heart as it did that moment.
3 Mar – Classes continued, assignments were passed around, and exam results were almost equated to taboo around campus.
Before the holidays started, I made it a point to at least blog, but I know I didn’t. It wasn’t so much of lack of inspiration because there were so so many things to blog about the last few weeks. But then again, those thoughts would have been too appalling to pen down and too angsty to be reader-friendly. The main reason I’m blogging right now would be because it’s a darn good excuse for putting off doing my homework, which has already started piling up although this is just the 3rd day of school.
So, here’s a quick run-through of the past month and bits of events and thoughts that flitted through my mind:
1 Feb – Dad brought home our cheeky ‘angel’ that came rapped in a four-legged furry black package, complete with waggy tail and eager licks.
7 Feb – Chinese New Year came and past, thank God for that. I know some people love the whole idea of noisy music, the literal ‘painting the town red’ theme, heart-clogging consumption of peanuts and fried goodies, the clink-clank of mahjong tiles interspersed with the constant shouts and bellows of triumph and no orchestra’s complete without the background accompaniment of women exchanging the latest juicy bit of gossip, but to me Chinese New Year is pretty much like a visit to the dentist. It’s something inevitable that’s best done and be over with quick. I know it’s all part of being able to embrace the whole Chinese culture thing but relatives who see me once in a blue moon and try to pretend they know anything at all about me irks me.
9 Feb – Had a pretty enjoyable night at The boy’s place. Highlights of the night would be watching the cutest lion dance performance and being around a houseful of active happy noisy kids ( some part during that night I set out gridlines for my future kids, that is if I ever have any… I’m gonna teach them the best game of all…playing pretend that they’re mimes for at least 4 days a week……)
14 Feb – A day that needs no introduction. It was during this day that I realized that most of us got the whole idea all screwed up being led like lambs to the slaughter by commercialization and what-nots. Valentine’s a day to celebrate love between one another, fellow humans, friends, family, people who mean something to us but somewhere along the way, especially amongst certain communities it’s become an unwritten law that it’s to be confined within couples. And as for paying quintuple times the price for dinner and flowers, honey, how much more sillier can people get?
27 Feb – The first time I never thought of sanitizers as I held a shaking, puking puppy in the car. Also the first time I got vomit stuck in my hair and not minding as long as she lived. Terror never slunk its cruel vise around my heart as it did that moment.
3 Mar – Classes continued, assignments were passed around, and exam results were almost equated to taboo around campus.
Tuesday, January 01, 2008
The end and the new beginning
Like every other normal day, the clock has struck 12. The only distinction this time is that we'll no longer be flippin the pages of last year's calender. It is 2008 today. How surreal it is that in the difference of a minute we are leaving behind a whole year and taking the first steps into the next year. Will it be promising? Will there be pots of gold to seek at the ends of rainbows? Will there be heartache and sorrow? Will there be big changes and will we be able to learn at the end of this new born year?
New year's resolutions have been made and hopefully adhered to, new hopes and promises have been secretly stashed and the new year has dawned cheery and sunny. My finals are coming nearer and nearer to me and thus, here I am wishing all a Happy New Year and may this new year bring buckets of health and happiness to you.
Cheers!
New year's resolutions have been made and hopefully adhered to, new hopes and promises have been secretly stashed and the new year has dawned cheery and sunny. My finals are coming nearer and nearer to me and thus, here I am wishing all a Happy New Year and may this new year bring buckets of health and happiness to you.
Cheers!
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