Sunday, November 09, 2014

Why I stayed in the faith

It has been some time since I’ve blogged here, but I recently read an opinion piece in the Malay Mail Online on atheism, and it calls to question a few issues that I have wrestled with in the past. In a world where death threats have been issued over puppies, I’ve wondered if I should share my two cents worth, and finally decided to write this, because once upon a time not too long ago, I shared the concerns of the author of that opinion piece.

Despite being born in a Christian family, I am a firm believer in the notion that religion should never be inherited, but understood and personally sought after by each individual concerned. Having said that, I went through a season when I started questioning the existence of God, the purpose of church, the validity of the Bible. It has taken me a while to grasp the iceberg of what it means to be a practicing Christian, but allow me to address a few of the issues raised.

Wives submitting to husbands ( Ephesians 5:22 )

To be honest, as a rebellious, opinionated teenager, I found reconciling my notions of independence and feminism with this verse close to impossible. Submit to my husband? A mere man ?? A mortal ?? What about never !  Unfortunately, as with many other instructions in the Bible, we tend to have these knee-jerk reflexes when it comes to sensitive issues such as these and forget to look at the verse in it’s entirety, in context. For instance, when we talk about women submitting to their husbands, many tend to gloss over the following verses :


25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:25 – 28


There are a few standouts here :
  •      Husbands are asked to love their wives, just as Christ loved the church. Just as Christ loved the church. If you’re unfamiliar with Christianity, Christ endured torture, mockery, abuse, denial, and still DIED for the church. And after all of that, husbands are asked to love their wives in the same manner.
  •      I am aware of how often men (and sometimes the church) misquote the Bible when trying to manipulate their wives, an instance in which I’m afraid reflects the sheer lack of understanding he has in the Word.  “Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife, loves himself.” Basically meaning : do unto your wives only what you would do unto yourself. Men who hurl verbal, emotional or physical abuse on their spouses are not obeying this verse, and thus are not accurate representations of what the Bible actually expects of them.


In essence, the Bible is asking husbands to reflect to their wives the love that Christ has for us and further binds them to the promise of loving their wives as much as they love themselves. Now, I’m not too sure about you, but I wouldn’t mind being loved by my husband in the same selfless manner that God does. On addressing submission, submission in this context is very different from the submission of a slave to his master. It is important for a household to have a leader as that familiar saying about two queens never ruling one kingdom goes…but the Bible also binds husbands to submit to God as the leader of the household, thus effectively making Christ the center of a relationship and the head of one’s household. Not man, Christ.


Women as quiet, gentle spirits ( 1 Peter 3: 2-4)

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.


In a world that prides material possessions, superficial beauty, and temporary success, there is really very little wrong in priding values that lead to inner beauty. Perhaps one might argue that this only applies to women, but then you’d be ignoring the countless many other commandments that apply to men too, in regards to righteousness.

Lot offering his daughters to be gang-raped (Genesis 19:8)

I once had a long discussion with someone over instances in the Bible such as these, and received a pretty enlightening answer. The Bible documents everything that happened in the history of Christianity, and it does not censor. Thus said, what Lot and many others have done may not always be right, or pleasing to God. Just like David’s infamous adulterous murder of Bathsheba’s husband, it is definitely not an instruction for fellow believers to do the same. Free will, and the freedom to choose allows us to make our own decisions, bearing in mind that all actions lead to certain repercussions, which is why it is important to remember this verse : 

“ I have the right to do anything, but not everything is beneficial. I have the right to do anything, but not everything is constructive – 1 Corinthians 10:23 “


The Bible and the oppression of women’s right

Quite the contrary actually. The position of women in the Bible has always been questioned, but critics often overlook the many positive positions that women have been given, bearing in mind the cultural and historical timeframe of when these incidences unfold. The Bible documents the acts of numerous faithful women like Esther, Ruth, Elizabeth, the Samaritan woman at the well, also the fact that God chose a woman (Mary) to mother his son, and upon his resurrection, Jesus appears first to the women. Regardless of what men of that era thought, contrary to being second class, God placed women first.

It is important to follow the Bible in chronological order, (or one would argue that slavery, live sacrifices, and polygamy are still valid today). Jesus demonstrated perfectly the position of women in God’s eyes. Despite objections from his disciples, Jesus was insistent on ministering to prostitutes, widows, adulteresses, persons of whom were amongst the lowest in society at the time. In doing so, He showed by example how each and every person is precious in the sight of God. Women were the center of many miracles Jesus performed, which further cemented the fact that He did not judge women based on their sex, or position in society, but more in terms of their relationship to God, and their faith in the living word. To quote Philip Yancey 

For women and other oppressed people, Jesus turned upside down the accepted wisdom of his day.... Jesus violated the mores of his time in every single encounter with women recorded in the four Gospels." 
People who know me well would know I'm a proud feminist. And as one, I do not agree that the Bible is anti-feminism, quite rightly the opposite too. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's definition of a feminist recently went viral, in which she defines a feminist as : 

" A person who believes in the social, political and economical equality of the sexes ". 

Now, if I may be so bold as to say, if one were to go by that definition, then Jesus, would fit the profile of a feminist. 

By reading the Bible in chronological order, one should realize that the coming and living sacrifice of Christ has obliterated all known laws that were used to oppress the oppressed. It was the start of a new chapter in Christianity, a renewal of the relationship that the church now enjoys with God. In fact, there are about 100 passages in the Bible that stresses on caring for the needy, the widow, and the orphans. It is a call to action for all Christians to truly practice the essence of Christianity, a relationship with God that prioritizes love as it’s most important commandment. The word ‘love’ appears 310 times in 280 verses of the Bible. To raise arms against Christianity over laws that no longer apply, would be to ignore the selfless nature of Christ's sacrifice.

I do not argue that throughout history, religion has been misinterpreted, misused, and abused as a means of manipulation for evil men. Indeed, there is no one religion that does not have blood on its hands, but the one common denominator in all these, is men. Men, religion, and the existence of an all powerful, loving God are 3 very separate entities. Interlinked, but separate. 

Ultimately, it is the not knowing of all the answers that makes it necessary for me to know Christ. I need God not because I am perfect, but because I am imperfect, because He is the champion of the broken, the outcasts, the weak and the ones in need of salvation. Perhaps you’ll tell me that I have been brainwashed, and so indoctrinated in religious dogma that I have lost all sense of independent thought, but though I may not have found all the answers to the many questions I have, I have found the one answer that matters : The grace of God, and the peace of knowing that a strong relationship with Christ is one that endures all storms.


* All opinions expressed are my own, I am not a pastor, or a theologian, but I feel the need to stand up for what I believe simply because I have been in the position of the critics, the confused and the wondering wanderers. I share these thoughts not to judge, or victimize someone else’s freedom for expression, but from a position of one who has walked through the same uncertainties, I know personally what it feels like.  

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

To the Piggy mummy

“ You’ll thank me for this one day “
“ No, I won’t ! Never ! In your dreams ! “



Growing up, this used to be a very common conversation thread between mum and I. 

Don’t like public speaking ?
Well young lady, guess who’s going to be sharing a solo poem in front of everyone in church this Mother’s Day ? You’ll thank me for this one day.

Don’t like practicing your piano ?
You’re not going anywhere until I hear you repeat that page at least 10 times.  You’ll thank me for this one day.

You wanna eat that cake ?
Here’s the recipe. Bake it yourself. You’ll thank me for this one day.

Your braces hurt ?
What do you mean your braces hurt ?? You’re keeping them on until your teeth straighten and I’m not hearing another word of this ! Now finish your porridge ! You’ll thank me for this one day !

Over the years, my mother has never allowed me to back down from any challenge thrown in my path, and on more than one occasion has firmly put me right in the path of great challenges. Most of all, she taught us how to give. I remember our ire as children when she would pack up our toys each year and donate them away “because there are children out there with no toys to play and you haven’t touched these in a long long long time!!”. Today, my tiger *ahem* supermummy turns … 25 ! Again !  :P And because I cannot think of a better gift, here’s a great big thank you, to make up for all the thank you's I never told you.

So thank you mummy for constantly showing me that by pushing my limits, I widen my horizon.

Thank you mummy for showing me that nothing worth having, ever comes easy. And for constantly saying that even gold has to go through fire to get moulded ( See ! I listen wan ! )

Thank you mummy for showing me that by never giving up, we get the strength to plow through the bend and see greater things at the end of the road.

Thank you mummy for constantly reminding me not to settle for anything less than the best that one can give. For teaching me how to love, and give.


Thank you mummy for being a living testimony, and a living example of the unconditional love that God has for us.  








P.s : Pictures stolen from Elinluv.com

P.p.s : Woman, we need to take more pictures together, and less pictures of food !

xoxoxo, 
Piggy Jo

Wednesday, February 05, 2014

Letter to my future child


If you end up reading this …. 

I’ll frown but not fret if you come home with muddy feet and dirt streaked cheeks because I’ll know you’ve been out exploring and challenging the limits of your imagination. In a touchscreen world where instant gratification is currency, I would want you to live your childhood. Adulthood, is overrated.


And in an age that prides perfection, I hope you don’t always come home with Straight As. Perfect scores mess with your psyche. School is not a competition of darts, or a game where every half point counts. If anything, develop the passion for learning new things and creating new experiences. Know this, the only A that will bring you far in life is Attitude.

Make friends who will make memories you’ll laugh at when you’re in your 60’s and 70’s. You’ll cut a class or two, you’ll probably be summoned to the principal’s office at least once (nothing is going to match the adrenaline rush you get within those torturous minutes waiting for your parents to arrive and your turn to be called in), but those are the stupid things you can afford to do only in your youth.

When you oppose the paths I’ll inadvertently point you towards, I’ll cringe, and bite my tongue, but inwardly rejoice at your spine and will. Because you’ll remind me that you were not born to be a mini me. Or an outlet for me to live vicariously through. 

I’ll know then, that you’ll be a person brave enough to charge through whatever obstacles that may stand between you and your dreams. A person of your own, who will not let someone else dictate the rules for YOUR life.  A person capable of making sound, reasonable decisions.


I’m not going to lie. You are going to fail at something, some point or another. Remember though that people look at the world through different lenses. Some people choose to magnify the negatives, some don’t realize that their lenses are coloured, some zoom in on their successes and ignore the things that don’t go their way. When things don’t go your way, I hope you’ll know that the bigger picture is made up of thousands of tiny dots, and some of these dots may not add up in your current situation, but all paths lead the way they were meant to. If you lose your perspective, zoom out and take a look at the bigger picture.



Thursday, November 28, 2013

KLCC Real Estate Market Trends


Having lived away from home for so many years  now, it’s just a matter of time before one thinks of casting roots and making a true home out of the home away from home. Living in the heart of bustling Kuala Lumpur has its definite perks. Commodities are easily accesible, night life and the finest of life is just a short ride away. In fact, literally everything is just a whisper away. Comfort and luxury often go hand in hand, but the value of convenience is one that can never be underestimated. Nobody wants to pay premium prices to rent a pretty spot in the city but end up spending hours in traffic jams and wrestling the stress of meeting appointment schedules on time.

Real estate in KL city centre remains one of the most sophisticated and high end real estate areas. Developments in the area cater mainly to well to do professionals or expats, as the properties come with stunning views, facilities and equally stunning prices. A lot of the real estate here have enviable views of the Kuala Lumpur skyline and most of the apartments are serviced apartments that have been furnished with elegance and class.  As most of the residents in these developments consist mainly of expats working in Malaysia, there are a large number of international schools hosting a rich community of world citizens.

It is needless to say that living right in the heart of where it all happens means that you could just take a night off and watch an orchestra performance at the Malaysian Philharmonic Orchestra, or shop to your heart’s content at one of the many luxury shopping malls in the vicinity. With all these and more in store for the lucky buyer, it is no wonder that the KL properties market is only headed in one direction. Upwards.

Ah yes, a girl can dream indeed.